I would say that lying to anyone un-necessarily IS reprehensible... especially when the victims are children who look to adults for guidance and truth.
Some might say, (myself included) that the Santa Claus legend is a completely unacceptable and un-necessary LIE inflicted upon children. I don't have a problem with Santa Claus as a cute Christmas story. What I have a problem with is falsely presenting that story to children as if it were real.
There are plenty of other Christmas and holiday fantasies (Frosty the Snowman, Ebeneezer Scrooge, The Grinch Who Stole Christmas, etc.) that add magic and fun to the holidays for children without LYING to them!
Kids know that Frosty The Snowman is only a fun Christmas story, for example.
"Burden"? It seems to me that if a child is living in a loving home with adoptive parents that want him, provide for his emotional, psychological, spiritual, and material needs, then where is the "burden" of being an adopted child?
Very young children only care about being loved, wanted and provided for adequately. It ultimately does NOT matter to them if it is biological or adoptive parents in this role.
As far as I can see, the "burden" which you refer to is usually created un-necessarily by adults who decide to LIE to their adoptive child about his / her true parentage all their life. Naturally, when the truth is finally revealed years later, it is usually a shock for the (now adult) child, and resentment at being lied to un-necessarily results. (More on this later regarding Luke)
The "burden" is usually created in the minds of apprehensive adults who selfishly do not wish to have a conversation that they will find uncomfortable.
I contrast all of this against adoptive parents who raise their children with honesty from the very beginning, and tell them up front that they are adopted. The child is raised with no burden. There is no shock later in life. There are no resentments (at least not about being lied to regarding parentage).
Children and young people are FAR tougher than most adults give them credit for. In their zeal to "protect" children from the "burdens" of the world some parents make the mistake of coddling, insulating, and lying to their kids un-necessarily, and eventually they create completely dysfunctional adults with poor social, self-sustaining, and problem-solving skills.
I see it every day.
Agreed. However in the case of Obi-Wan Kenobi's lie to Luke about his father being "murdered" by Darth Vader, I am of the opinion that it was neither harmless nor necessary.
Maybe so. But he was an adult, and he was not fragile. Luke hearing the truth (at that point) would not have been the horrible, traumatic thing that Kenobi defenders suggest that it would have been.
Well... that's certainly one (jedi-centric) way of looking at it.
Another way of looking at it is, if Kenobi had told Luke the truth-- if he had said that Anakin was a heroic jedi that the council (and Kenobi himself) had unfairly alienated and isolated -- if he had said that due to Anakin's own resulting anger, fears and disillusionment, he tragically fell to the Dark Side of the force and is now living under its spell as another individual-- if he had said these things, it's likely that Luke would have been saddened to hear of his father's fate, but would have had no reason to doubt himself since his own experiences are different from his father's. He may, in fact, have been galvanized to prove that he was very different from his father, and would not suffer his same fate.
I think those doubts would only have plagued Luke, IF he not been given the guidance to understand that Anakin's fate was mostly his own choice.
The only reasoning that I can see for NOT telling Luke the truth about his father is that once Kenobi admits that he was partially responsible for Anakin's horrible disillusionment, the next question for Luke would naturally become "Then why should I trust YOU to guide ME now? How do I know you won't lead me down my father's same mistaken path?"
Kenobi's belief in Luke as the hope of the Galaxy and the Rebellion is all the more reason to have been honest with him up front.
By lying to him the way he did, Obi-Wan risked Luke finding out the truth in a far more traumatic way (Which he did during the duel with Vader on Cloud City).
Kenobi also risked potentially placing Luke in a position to doubt himself at a far more critical moment (like during the life and death struggle with Vader).
Furthermore, the success of the Rebellion and the fate of the Galaxy only rested in Luke's hands from Yoda and Obi-Wan's point of view. It's reasonable to assume that there were many virtuous Force-strong individuals throughout the galaxy that could have filled Luke's role.
Uh, no. That amounted to no such thing. Luke NEVER admitted, felt, or even inferred that he was not ready to know the truth as a young Farmboy back on Tatooine.
In fact, quite the contrary:
Luke only apologized to Yoda for not listening to him and leaving Dagobah prematurely to face Vader before his training was complete.
Luke was also apologizing to Yoda for initially focusing his righteous anger upon the dying little gnome (Re: "Unfortunate that I know the truth?!"), rather than where it belonged... on Obi-Wan Kenobi who was the one who lied to him in the first place.
Of course, it is shortly AFTER Yoda's death that Luke confronts the Force sprit of Kenobi for his un-necessary lie.
Luke was still resentful, and still accusatory (Re: "Obi-Wan! Why didn't you tell me. You told me Vader betrayed and murdered my father?)
I did not accuse Kenobi of anything he did not do . His "misdeeds" are a matter of Saga fact.
I was clear that Anakin's choice to embrace the Dark Side of the Force and slaughter of children was a vile, selfish, and immoral one. But I do feel that his heroism, loyalty, bravery, and skill (prior to his fall) are also a matter of Saga fact.
The only thing "bewildering" to ME about Anakin's status as a "model jedi" and hero (pre-dark-side fall) is how many jedi failed (or chose not) to see it while the Republic... indeed the galaxy at large hailed him as such.
At the end of the day, Kenobi's story of Vader "murdering" Anakin was an un-necessary untruth selfishly and vainly designed to shield a young hero from the knowledge that Kenobi's own past mistakes contributed to Anakin's terrible fate... and that those mistakes might very well be repeated again by this very fallible human being.
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