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>It can get frustrating when you just want to discuss a topic when people are trying to dump on it. It's not about disliking something. Never was. It's about being mean about it.
I think you’ve got to be careful though:
>Also, teasing and ribbing can often be hard to tell from just being mean online.
Exactly right. I’ve had more than a few threads almost turn into a fight. It was never my intention to cheese folks off; but I tend to have very different takes on things than most people here and it’s tough to express them without seeming recalcitrant if I can’t read how someone’s taking what I’m saying. It’s especially difficult if you’re trying to explain something that’s directly opposed to what someone else thinks. By way of example; I genuinely disliked Avatar, and I’ve explained why in another post but because Hector liked it so much it’s tough for him to wrap his head around the concept, so dissenters are just “haters” as far as he’s concerned. Could the situation be reconciled? Sure, but it’d be a LOT of work, considering that online you’re missing about 95% of the cues you’d get in normal face to face interaction. Not to mention the other folks that’d come in during the discussion. (Hector has many friends.... POWERFUL friends....)
So.... what’s the moral? I dunno. I always try to cut folks some slack online. I’m pretty thick skinned, so I can let a lot slide.
Finally saw the movie last night with a couple of geeky friends and we all really enjoyed it. Sure it has it moments but overall it delivers as a solid GL movie. It's very faithful to the comics and it's a blast to see the rings do their stuff!
Mark Strong is the best thing about it by far, his Sinestro is spot on, and can't wait to see him in the sequel. Ryan Renolds makes a really decent GL. The Guardians are superb as are kilowog and Tomar-Re. I was pleasantly surprised to see a certain female character in there as well, I hope they continue to flesh her and her organisation out in the sequels.
>It can get frustrating when you just want to discuss a topic when people are trying to dump on it. It's not about disliking something. Never was. It's about being mean about it.
I think you’ve got to be careful though:
>Also, teasing and ribbing can often be hard to tell from just being mean online.
Exactly right. I’ve had more than a few threads almost turn into a fight. It was never my intention to cheese folks off; but I tend to have very different takes on things than most people here and it’s tough to express them without seeming recalcitrant if I can’t read how someone’s taking what I’m saying. It’s especially difficult if you’re trying to explain something that’s directly opposed to what someone else thinks. By way of example; I genuinely disliked Avatar, and I’ve explained why in another post but because Hector liked it so much it’s tough for him to wrap his head around the concept, so dissenters are just “haters” as far as he’s concerned. Could the situation be reconciled? Sure, but it’d be a LOT of work, considering that online you’re missing about 95% of the cues you’d get in normal face to face interaction. Not to mention the other folks that’d come in during the discussion. (Hector has many friends.... POWERFUL friends....)
So.... what’s the moral? I dunno. I always try to cut folks some slack online. I’m pretty thick skinned, so I can let a lot slide.
It's like in the retro-action threads where the same handful of people insisted on gleefully dumping on the stuff over and over and over again. Thread after thread after thread. Or like when I'd start a WW thread and the same few people would post derogatory pics over and over. That hasn't happened recently and I thank everyone for that. But I used to avoid the comic forum altogether for awhile because I got so sick of it.
When people do stuff like that it goes past saying that they dislike something and just comes off as trying to dump on threads and cause hard feelings. It can get frustrating when you just want to discuss a topic when people are trying to dump on it. It's not about disliking something. Never was. It's about being mean about it.
Also, teasing and ribbing can often be hard to tell from just being mean online. So if I'm not sure people will get it, I just don't do it anymore.
People here... "comicbook geeks" "fans" ... or whatever you want to
call them, that are on this board, DO make it personal. I've seen it
time and time again.
And their behavior and the subsequent reactions TO that behavior have
a lot more to do with personal snipes than merely disagreeing on a movie
or a comicbook issue..... if ONLY it ended at that.
Then the perps have the boldness to play it coy.
I'd ask that you step back and center on the issues themselves before
getting personal, because that's where things have gotten unhinged for
me over the years around here.
I'm sorry...and I'm not going to point fingers or name names...but some of you are contradicting yourselves.
I vividly remember some of you trashing Avatar...a movie I liked a lot from the very beginning...I got a lot of flack for it...and you were relentless at it...like I am being with Green Lantern now...but not once did I get defensive (nor got mad)...because I take it in stride...and realize there are just opinions...and that it's just a movie.
I never took the Avatar bashing as personal...I didn't make the bloody movie...nor made money from it...so who cares if you bash it...lol.
BTW...my Superman Returns received quite a bashing here too...and to this day...still does...lol.
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