ok.. Birthday rant

[Riffster]

I totally hate my mood this week. as some of you know my 40th B-day was Tuesday, aside from my wife taking me out to dinner and a card from my mom and grandmother, I got nothing. My in-laws sent card late, they forgot..
now my friend turned 40 on the day after and they're having a big surprise party Saturday, my friends are all talking about getting gifts for him etc...

I know i'm being selfish for not getting anything. heck I didn't get a cake..

Am I totally overreacting? I should just suck it up and stop being materialistic?

[saildog]

Sorry, Dude. I'd be disappointed, too.

I've had the same thing happen over the years and I came to the conclusion that I just don't put out any vibes that kind of stuff is important to me.

Give them the benefit of the doubt and don't let it get you down on them.

[SlipperyLilSuckers]

I don't think you are overreacting, 40th is a big birthday, and I'm sorry you didn't even get a cake... that sucks. Birthdays are the only time of the year I really look forward to lots of special attention...lucky for me I get it more often than that but if I don't get it on my Birthday I get upset.

[alex]

Maybe they are still planning a suprise?

[Brazoo]

I think saildog might have hit the nail on the head. I'm not big on a lot of birthday attention myself. My family gets together sometime around my birthday - the kiddies make handmade cards - my girlfriend takes me out for dinner - that weekend I'll probably go out with friends and drink a little too much. It's not terribly exciting, but it's what I like.

Anyway, happy birthday!

[DocDrako]

I always hated the disappointment of birthdays. Not that I expected alot, but because people felt obligated. So I have Hobbit birthdays now, and have ever since I turned 33 (which is when a Hobbit comes of age).

On my birthday, I give presents (and don't accept any). It was my solution to the birthday disappointment. (thanks JRR Tolkien!)

[wolfie]

If it makes you feel any better i have not had a present for my birthday from anyone since i was a little kid. No parties and no cake.

Birthdays are just another day like any other.

[LadyZod]

If your friends make a big deal about you going to this other friend's party.... then you know, it's a surprise party for you too.

I know we played this game with a couple of friend's whose birthdays were days from each other. We got one convinced that it was a surprise party for the other one so he would help plan... and then double whammy!

[Riffster]

oh.. this party is being held at my other friends new girlfriends house so it's totally for Jon only, she's making a big deal out of it, it's not really the party per se, Ithink if Facebook hadn't reminded everyone it was my B-day my friends wouldn't have even said anything to me.
but whatever i just had to rant, now maybe my mood will get better, i've been grumpy all week.

[toys2cool]

suck it up

j/k bro

[jessica]

I always hated the disappointment of birthdays. Not that I expected alot, but because people felt obligated. So I have Hobbit birthdays now, and have ever since I turned 33 (which is when a Hobbit comes of age).

On my birthday, I give presents (and don't accept any). It was my solution to the birthday disappointment. (thanks JRR Tolkien!)

That is a fabulous way to celebrate!!!

And a b-lated birthday to you, Riffster. I was also a bit moody myself lately.

[AJ Collector]

I think you should mention to your wife that you would have liked a little more hopla on your Birthday..... She might surprise you.

Me.... I make my own Birthday special, sick day from work and a trip to Atlantic City or something else special to me, why wait for others.

[UnderdogDJLSW]

Hey, sorry to hear, but I think unless there is an instigator around you (like your friend's girlfriend - someone who likes to make a big deal of these things) then as we hit the fourth decade it starts to get smaller. Last few years, I've had cards and a gift from the wife and kids and that is about it.

[starhunter]

My birthday was on the 19th and i didnt even get a "HAPPY BIRTHDAY" on this board...lol....:(

[z3zep]

Yeah, I think 40th is a biggie and maybe your friends are still going to surprise you? Sorry to hear that you were disappointed.

My birthday was on the 19th and i didnt even get a "HAPPY BIRTHDAY" on this board...lol....:(

^^^Hey sorry we missed your b-day, Hope it was a good one!