It's true,never mix business w/ freindship

[jessica]

Money changes people. I'm so glad I'm a chimp.

[nvmbrsdoom5]

1) he's 21 years old and new at his job, 2) he's in over his head and 3) he isn't making any money, so he probably needs it pretty badly, and doesn't have a mom to borrow from.

Cut the kid a break. It's Christmas.

That's my sentiments on it too. If he's that young, inexperienced, and this is the first time you've really had any kind of incident with the kid, then maybe hating the guy for life and never speaking to him again is a bit much. It really just all boils down to how important the person really is to you or not, or if you really believe that he's just completely untrustworthy and intended to scam you from day one.

[toys2cool]

Indeed. Take the money, and tell him never to speak to you again.
Give the money to a gang of street punks, with specific instructions to break his knee caps....

Best money you'll ever spend...

lmao!

[Gorn Captain]

Indeed. Take the money, and tell him never to speak to you again.
Give the money to a gang of street punks, with specific instructions to break his knee caps....

Best money you'll ever spend...

[mitchedwards]

Working with family and friends is a risky proposition. Family or not its best to get all deals in writing.

[toys2cool]

Cut the kid a break. It's Christmas.

I did,i didn't beat his ***

naw I get what you're saying,it's not even about the money though (my sister kept that) it's the way he went about it.but it's cool,I'm over it now

[MegoSteve]

I can't believe almost no one on this board was ever 21 years old OR in a position where they made a commitment they couldn't keep because they had no clue what the hell they were doing OR both at the same time.

THANK YOU. Jeez, I thought I was on Bizarro world for a second with all the "dump him!" suggestions.

Granted, I'm pretty tight with a buck and have flipped out on internet strangers for significantly less money, but if it were truly a real life friend of mine and he really meant that much to me, I'd let the $350 slide. I'm not saying you don't have the right to be angry with him if he promised you more, but you know 1) he's 21 years old and new at his job, 2) he's in over his head and 3) he isn't making any money, so he probably needs it pretty badly, and doesn't have a mom to borrow from.

Cut the kid a break. It's Christmas.

[davidb]

I think you made the right decision. He dropped off the money, so you've got that already. Let some time pass before you talk to him again to allow both sides to get good and cooled down. After that, if things work out, you've still got your friendship.

Either way, I'd be extremely careful in the future dealing with this guy again on anything regarding money.

Hope that things work out for the best for you.

[toys2cool]

Thanx again for the advice guys,he dropped off the money to my sister.i'll just let things cool down a bit.It'll be a while before I talk to his *** again

[Dave Mc]

Business with friends or family always seems to end badly. My bothers started building houses together 20 years ago. That lasted about 3 years and they hadn't spoken a word to each other until last year. It took them 16 years to get past it.

If I were that guy I'd still pay what I promised, because well... I promised it. If there was a reason I couldn't, I'd talk it over with you and see if there was something we could work out so that we could both be comfortable with it.

If I were on the other side, I'd take the $400 and let it go. He's got to live with it knowing that he lost trust with a friend who helped him over a $350. Over time, that will cost him more and he'll realize it.

[megocrazy]

It's not about the money...it's about how he went about it...to me that's not friendship.

I agree. If he had come to you and said "Hey man I know I promised you $750 but they took this and things are tight,etc." You probably would have said "OK Catch me later or maybe even "don't sweat it the $400 is fine", but it seems he was sneaky about it and just stiffed you with no actual feeling of remorse. If I'm right on that it seems you value the friendship more than he does. That's the impression I got when you first posted. Being broke and not having enough money in this economy is not a punishable offense, but being a ****** is subject to the full butt kicking that is appropriate with the crime.

[Hector]

It's not about the money...it's about how he went about it...to me that's not friendship.

[Meule]

Look at it this way: your sister found a house and you made $400. What's more important? The remaining $350 or a possible lifetime friend?

[jimbutsu]

I can't believe almost no one on this board was ever 21 years old OR in a position where they made a commitment they couldn't keep because they had no clue what the hell they were doing OR both at the same time.

[Zemo]

your little bro /friend definitely owes you money but i can see why he is changing the deal. the $4500 he's getting is not really $4500. the amount is his commission and as such commission checks are taxed at about 35% so his check is about $2900 less that $600 mentoring fee so it comes to $2325. now if he pays you the $750 which he definitely owes you he's down to $1575. just tell him to pay you on his next sale. which is more than fair on your part. that will test the depth of your friendship with him.

I agree with this D.

"Don't sweat the small stuff, hmm it's all small stuff."