Here is my dilemma. I have been buying items for another collection (non MEGO or toy related) for months. They are extremely rare items and have never seen these items in my 20 years of collecting not just for sale, but didn't know they existed. He began liquidating his collection and I started purchasing them off of EBAY. I then contacted him and have spent months and a ton of money buying out most of his collection. He has a no haggle policy and take it or leave it with price. I have been paying above what he would probably sell them for on EBAY in exchange for not even having to compete against anyone.
There was one incident prior where he agreed to sell me an item; I paid for it and he refunded the money telling me he wasn't ready to part with it yet (this was at a point when he was only selling off certain pieces and not his entire collection). I told him that if he sold it to me and had seller's remorse; I would sell it back to him shortly after if he was still experiencing the remorse. He did sell it to me and although said he missed it; he knew it was going to go to good home. He also purchased it through a connection and asked if it would be ok if I kept the purchasing to myself because he didn't want his connection to be upset that he was selling it which I agreed to do.
He finally decided to sell his entire collection and because I had bought the vast majority of his collection; I was to get first dibs on everything else again no haggling. We got to a point where there were 4 items that I wanted and it would have only left him with 7 items to sell before it was entirely liquidated. He placed one of the items up on EBAY without saying a word to me. He was offering it for less than what he wanted me to pay for it. I contacted him and asked if I could buy it, but would do it off of EBAY so he could avoid any fees. We were both happy with the transaction. I asked him if he could hold onto the other 3 a little longer so I could rebuild my funds to buy them or at least give me the opportunity to buy them before offering to anyone else. He agreed.
He contacted me shortly thereafter and wanted to sell the rest and offered me a bundle price for the rest. I accepted and have 3 of them in hand. The fourth one had a faulty mechanism in it and he asked me to send to a third party for repair at his cost and then it would be sent back.
I belong to a collectors forum for these type of items and of like sharing pictures just like people here of items they have never seen. Late last week I asked him if he was still pretty adamant that I not share what I bought with anyone since he had placed some of the items up on EBAY and whoever the connection was would have probably have seen it or caught wind of it, but would definitely honor the deal of not sharing if he was still against it.
He first responded that he didn't want it shared and appreciated me asking. I responded that I would honor that wish and not share it.
I later received a really odd email from him where he went berserk and told me that he was distraught that I would even ask if I could share it, that it would just be a matter of time before I shared it, I couldn't be trusted etc. He wants his items back and refund me the money. I have contacted him a couple of times apologizing about even asking if I could share, but I have not or will not disclose it.
This morning I see that he has sent me a refund for the item that is at the third party repair. This was the one that was on EBAY. I believe he paid with a credit card because it removed the equivalent of credit card fees. Now he wants to refund me for the other 3 and demanding that I return them. He is no longer claiming that I couldn't be trusted, but coming from the angle that I offered to sell the one item if he wanted it shortly thereafter and therefore I need to honor his request to send the other 3 back.
I really don't want to send him the other's back. He agreed to give me first dibs, he wanted to sell them right away, and gave me a discount to take them now instead of over time. I didn't even haggle with him and paid his asking price. He is the type of person who will just place money in my PayPal account and ask later. I have yet to respond to his request.
My position is that he agreed to sell me those items first, he offered them to me, I bought them and he can't have them back due to seller's remorse or probably more likely a better offer from someone else. His position is that I somehow lost his trust for even asking if I could share them and that I agreed to sell him back another one early on when he
was just willing to sell bits and pieces of his collection until he decided he was going to liquidate everything. If I send them back; I will probably never see ones like them again.
I always try to do the right thing. He still has some pieces left in his collection, but I won't bother trying to buy them since they are not so rare that I can't live without them and this has left a sour taste in my mouth. I have tried to reason with him, but he simply wants his items back for whatever reason and I don't want to sell them back.
I apologize for the long post, but wanted to get some third party opinions to those that have no skin in the game. I have thought about the potential that he could try to track me down which I guess is possible risk, but I have always had the items sent to a postal box, he doesn't know where I live, and lives on the other side of the country from me.
Thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks
There was one incident prior where he agreed to sell me an item; I paid for it and he refunded the money telling me he wasn't ready to part with it yet (this was at a point when he was only selling off certain pieces and not his entire collection). I told him that if he sold it to me and had seller's remorse; I would sell it back to him shortly after if he was still experiencing the remorse. He did sell it to me and although said he missed it; he knew it was going to go to good home. He also purchased it through a connection and asked if it would be ok if I kept the purchasing to myself because he didn't want his connection to be upset that he was selling it which I agreed to do.
He finally decided to sell his entire collection and because I had bought the vast majority of his collection; I was to get first dibs on everything else again no haggling. We got to a point where there were 4 items that I wanted and it would have only left him with 7 items to sell before it was entirely liquidated. He placed one of the items up on EBAY without saying a word to me. He was offering it for less than what he wanted me to pay for it. I contacted him and asked if I could buy it, but would do it off of EBAY so he could avoid any fees. We were both happy with the transaction. I asked him if he could hold onto the other 3 a little longer so I could rebuild my funds to buy them or at least give me the opportunity to buy them before offering to anyone else. He agreed.
He contacted me shortly thereafter and wanted to sell the rest and offered me a bundle price for the rest. I accepted and have 3 of them in hand. The fourth one had a faulty mechanism in it and he asked me to send to a third party for repair at his cost and then it would be sent back.
I belong to a collectors forum for these type of items and of like sharing pictures just like people here of items they have never seen. Late last week I asked him if he was still pretty adamant that I not share what I bought with anyone since he had placed some of the items up on EBAY and whoever the connection was would have probably have seen it or caught wind of it, but would definitely honor the deal of not sharing if he was still against it.
He first responded that he didn't want it shared and appreciated me asking. I responded that I would honor that wish and not share it.
I later received a really odd email from him where he went berserk and told me that he was distraught that I would even ask if I could share it, that it would just be a matter of time before I shared it, I couldn't be trusted etc. He wants his items back and refund me the money. I have contacted him a couple of times apologizing about even asking if I could share, but I have not or will not disclose it.
This morning I see that he has sent me a refund for the item that is at the third party repair. This was the one that was on EBAY. I believe he paid with a credit card because it removed the equivalent of credit card fees. Now he wants to refund me for the other 3 and demanding that I return them. He is no longer claiming that I couldn't be trusted, but coming from the angle that I offered to sell the one item if he wanted it shortly thereafter and therefore I need to honor his request to send the other 3 back.
I really don't want to send him the other's back. He agreed to give me first dibs, he wanted to sell them right away, and gave me a discount to take them now instead of over time. I didn't even haggle with him and paid his asking price. He is the type of person who will just place money in my PayPal account and ask later. I have yet to respond to his request.
My position is that he agreed to sell me those items first, he offered them to me, I bought them and he can't have them back due to seller's remorse or probably more likely a better offer from someone else. His position is that I somehow lost his trust for even asking if I could share them and that I agreed to sell him back another one early on when he
was just willing to sell bits and pieces of his collection until he decided he was going to liquidate everything. If I send them back; I will probably never see ones like them again.
I always try to do the right thing. He still has some pieces left in his collection, but I won't bother trying to buy them since they are not so rare that I can't live without them and this has left a sour taste in my mouth. I have tried to reason with him, but he simply wants his items back for whatever reason and I don't want to sell them back.
I apologize for the long post, but wanted to get some third party opinions to those that have no skin in the game. I have thought about the potential that he could try to track me down which I guess is possible risk, but I have always had the items sent to a postal box, he doesn't know where I live, and lives on the other side of the country from me.
Thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks
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