What's Up with teenagers?

[TomStrong]

My seventeen year old daughter is insaaane about her room. I foolishly went in there looking for a needle I knew she had to sew a button back on my shorts and she went ballistic. I know she's not hiding drugs or anything but come on, she totally lost it. I'm wondering if she borderline OCD. I had to pull the "it's my house" speech and she could still give @&$!. ,! Oh man what an after dinner treat. Does anybody else have this problem?

[boss]

Charge her rent. Problem solved.

[SeattleEd]

Charge her rent. Problem solved.

Yup, almost 18 so why not expedite the push of the baby bird out the nest early by facing a real world scenario.

[Werewolf]

No doubt she overreacted. But as a courtesy did you ask her first or did you just go into her room and start digging around for the needle? It's your house, of course, but its still always polite to ask first.

[Nostalgiabuff]

teenage hormones + female = nutso

yeah, my daughter will be 14 soon and she tends to be a raving lunatic, except when she want something.

don't worry, everyone is always telling us it will get better, once she hits her 20's

[megocrazy]

Had twin boys first. Piece of cake versus raising my daughter. I love her but man can she be tough.

[toys2cool]

Teen girls are anal about their rooms...Don't take it personally, my sister was always the same way and my niece is like that now

[Zemo]

****e, my ole man would have been in there with the ole belt a swingin if any of us gave him ****e about coming into the room he provided. Just look at the other post lately, and here lies your answer imo.

[torgospizza]

Girls have different expectations about privacy which I can understand. As a guy that had to share a room with his brother and all the other guy nonsense (having no shower privacy in Gym, no doors on the school restroom stalls, etc), it's kind of our lot to not expect as much privacy. Still, it's your place and you only wanted a needle.

[Werewolf]

Girls have different expectations about privacy which I can understand.

I also don't think a lot of guys get that teenage years can be a very embarassing and sensitive time for young women. They are really not going to want their Dads or siblings coming across their undergarments or feminine hygine products while digging around their rooms. I get some guys like the "my house, my rules" kind of thing. But a little courtesy, like asking first, really does set a good example and shows you value a person's privacy and boundaries.

[warlock664]

I also don't think a lot of guys get that teenage years can be a very embarassing and sensitive time for young women. They are really not going to want their Dads or siblings coming across their undergarments or feminine hygine products while digging around their rooms. I get some guys like the "my house, my rules" kind of thing. But a little courtesy, like asking first, really does set a good example and shows you value a person's privacy and boundaries.

As the father of a 15 year old daughter, I wholeheartedly agree with this.

[HardyGirl]

As a former teenager, if I even thought about speaking to my dad like this, he would have KILLED me! Yes, she was probably annoyed, but that needs to be tempered w/ respect, and a little good ole fashioned FEAR. And I do agree about the rent thing. Heck I started paying rent at 16, when I got a summer job. If she wants privacy that bad in your house, make her pay for it. It's a good life lesson.

[Mikey]

As long as it's not for drugs or anything bad i'd let her have her privacy

Sometimes it's better NOT to know everything about somebody

Speaking for myself i'd choose not to show my parents my huge stash of Penthouses - and i'm guessing they'd agree

[fallensaviour]

Raising a sixteen year old girl,eleven year old boy and six year old little girl....Now wheres the strangle smiley...LOL
Privacy is a big thing for me and my wife.We try to instill that into the children.I do tell her if she has something she feels embarassed about or doesn't want found put it away!!!
I will knock and ask before entering we try to get our son to do the same however the six year old will go in when she wants to so she needs to be thougtful of this.
Also I do vacuum and bring clean laundry to her room so keep it clean!!!
Now with those rules in mind you do not enter our room with out knocking and asking.
I also put locks on all the bedrooms (except the little ones) for personal privacy so use it if you want it.
All that aside if you think you can hide in your room and be rude to people or ignorant, I will bust the door open with all the effort of blowing my nose.
The disrespect ends after that pretty quick.
You probably only need to do this once...LOL
Teenagers ahhhhhhhhhh pheeewy!!!!!!

[ctc]

Hmmmm....

So none of you guys were antsy about this sort of thing when you were that age; near fatal parental beatings aside? I can remember what it was like to desperately want your own little piece of the world.

Don C.