What would you do?

[Nostalgiabuff]

definately talk to the teacher. they will call the kids in and talk to them and hopefully that will be the end of it

[Wise4671]

I had to deal with this last year with my daughter. As soon as I found out about it I drove her to school the next day and we went to the pricipal I demanded a meeting with the girls and there parents also that the principal talk with the girls that were picking on my daughter right there and then I took my daughter home from school that day then brought her back the next day when we met with the parents. The parents were shocked that there kids were being the bullies of the school and assured me that there would never be another problem like this again and actually thanked me for bringing it to there attention I also found out that one of the parents was bullied when they were a kid in school (I felt pretty good after the meeting as I know what the look the parents were flashing at there kids ment) Kyra has not had a problem at school since and she is actually friends with one of the girls now.

[toys2cool]

Tell the school it's their Job!!!!!...but then again I'd feel sorry for anyone who picks on my kids. I have Zero Tolerance for that and I'd show up to pick up my kid so no one tries to bully them.......

same here...I'd probably scare the crap out of them

[hedrap]

You've got two issues.

First - follow what Wise did. You want a sitdown with the kids parents, too. If it's a lecture by the teacher/principal to the students, it ain't going to stick.

Second - What's her self-esteem issue. That has to be worked on. Martial Arts isn't something to be brushed off because you're afraid someone is going to get laid out. It will never hurt for a young girl, or a female of any age, to know how to break an arm.

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[ctc]

Hmmmm....

Tell the school first. They won't do anything but it'll get something on the record. (Schools just want it to go away, so they'll do some glad-handing and maybe talk to the other kids.... which might make them stop, might make it worse.) I wouldn't bother with the other parents; nobody EVER believes there's anything wrong with THEIR kids, and it'll embitter them against the victim and her family. Possibly supplying their little sociopaths with subliminal (or not so subliminal) cues that there's something questionable about the victim.... which will make things worse.

Most importantly, the parents should let the kid know that it's not their fault (unless you find out it somehow is) and that some people are just jerks. Sometimes you can ride these things out. 10 year olds lose interest in things pretty quick, and next year there might be some other kid to hate. If they're just taunting her or talkin' smack with the other kids it's probably best for her to slough it off. If it's getting physical, or they're stealing her stuff let the cops know. It gets her side out there and gets some doccumentation going; and a visit from the local constabulary might scare the little psychos, their parents AND the school into doing something.

That "zero tolerance" thing usually means "punish first, ask questions later" so if the victimized kid ever does fight back.... physically, words or whatever.... they can expect to be punished as well. If it comes to that, the parents should reassure the kid that she did what she could, and that sometimes people in authority are jerks too.

>Can you imagine being 10 and being picked on at school?

Yup. I was the fat kid AND the smart kid.

Don C.

[wayne foundation 07]

You've got two issues.

First - follow what Wise did. You want a sitdown with the kids parents, too. If it's a lecture by the teacher/principal to the students, it ain't going to stick.

Second - What's her self-esteem issue. That has to be worked on. Martial Arts isn't something to be brushed off because you're afraid someone is going to get laid out. It will never hurt for a young girl, or a female of any age, to know how to break an arm.

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I think some people read the post to quick , its my friends granddaughter, not mine.
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