How long would you wait?

[livnxxxl]

Lets say hypethetically (and heaven forbid) that your significant other passes away. How long would you wait after your significant other passed away to get back in the dating scene again?

[TEXASFETT]

Well I would think it really depends on the person him or her. I have though of that when I was driving a while back. Really the thought put me on my arse just thinking of it because really you know it happens everyday. "Time" would only tell for me or to speak for any person the healing part,really its hard to say but you have folks that will date in a heart beat. For instance my neighbor is in his 80's his wife died three years ago from cancer,and hooked up and married a 60 year old woman from the bingo hall just months after she passed. Crazy for his family members!

[jimsmegos]

Considering I had pretty much given up on relationships for a couple years prior to meeting my wife I can honestly say that if something happened I'd be perfectly content staying single for the rest of my days on this planet. Plus I know I'd never luck out like this again.

[HardyGirl]

I don't have an S.O., haven't had one for the last 17 years, and don't plan on getting one. Solo is sweet!

[HumanWolfman]

I would wait as long as it took to meet someone I wanted to spend time with. Could be weeks, could be never.

[The Bat]

A respectful amount of time...like say a week, or two?

[Toyman_Chris]

I refuse to answer this on the grounds that it may incriminate me. I am still trying to get my girlfriend to realize that she isn't considered my "significant other". Geesh....The wife has to get some kind of recognition.

[Brad]

I think that there are too many factors to be able to give an actual time frame. My Mom has not dated since my Dad died in 2004. They were married for 49 years and he was her whole world. I don't think my Mom has any desire to date again. I have known two other friends, close to my age, who were dating about a year after their wives died. I think age plays a big part in it. Also it may depend on if you have children or not. One of my friends had kids and wanted them to have a Mom. Some people, like myself, just enjoy having someone to share their life with. I am with wife #2 (first ended in divorce) and if something happened to her I would date again eventually. I didn't marry for the first time until I was 30 so I had plenty of time being single and chasing skirts.

[Adam West]

It's hard to say and also agree that the answer for one might not be the same for everyone. People have different needs, priorities, etc. so there is no one size fits all approach. I have been married almost 20 years and if something were to happen; my focus would be on my children first and just allow the grieving process to run its course before making any decisions. One of my best friends (who is my age) has been through two nasty divorces which is kind of a death in its own way. I have always been supportive of his decisions and I know his particular personality is one that longs for companionship. I have encouraged him to allow the grieving process to pass before jumping back into the dating scene again which he has done fairly quickly after both divorces, but again, I'm not him and realize that our personalities and needs are completely different.

[toys2cool]

A respectful amount of time...like say a week, or two?

lmao

[toys2cool]

my wife already warned me that if something happens to her, I better not meet anyone or she'll haunt me forever so that answers my question

[Brad]

At one time I had a wife, fiancee, and a girlfriend. I was married but separated and waiting to finish the divorce. I ended up marrying my fiancee and dropping my girlfriend. My girlfriend lived too far away from me and had no desire to move. We have remained good friends. The funniest part is that they all knew about each other and my fiancee actually sent my (now ex) wife a Christmas present one year.

[Random Axe]

Based on her current situation and condition, I've been forced to confront this issue or at least think about it. I've discussed this with Sandy, too. If she passes, I will never re-marry or take my wedding ring off. That's how I honestly feel now. I'll make every attempt to honor her life while still living mine.

[Hector]

my wife already warned me that if something happens to her, I better not meet anyone or she'll haunt me forever so that answers my question

Hey...I don't want anything to happen to her either.

But...if it that does happen...you are way too much of a player...you'd hook up with someone in no time...

[toys2cool]

Hey...I don't want anything to happen to her either.

But...if it that does happen...you are way too much of a player...you'd hook up with someone in no time...

naw I don't I could re-marry