Should geeks include those details in their online dating profiles?

[samurainoir]

My Brief OkCupid Affair With a World Champion Magic: The Gathering Player

This story sounds mean. It's about a girl judging a boy because he's a nerd (like so many of us!) that she met on OkCupid. But that's the point: Judging people on shallow stuff is human nature, and the magic and absurdity of online dating is how immediately and directly it throws that into relief. One person's Magic is another person's fingernail biting, and no profile in the world is deep enough to account for that.

[kennermike]

My Brief OkCupid Affair With a World Champion Magic: The Gathering Player

I couldnt get a date to save my life geek or no geek!

[BlackKnight]

I think so ... to some degree.
I mean ..., if your into a Hobby, and it means something to you , you wouldn't want to get into a relationship with that not known, or someone now dismissing it or acting as if what they got going on is more important. Be yourself , keep you interests if they mean something to you.

[MIB41]

I couldn't fathom profiling someone online to date. From the very start your expectation are going to be through the roof. By nature you will overstate your positives, understate your negatives, and generally show a side of yourself that is an idealized expression. Plus I would be concerned this type of environment would foster a breeding ground for the criminal minded.

[CaptainTrenchcoat]

I've used okcupid before and listed my geekiness. Gotten a few hits and a couple of dates so far. I noticed that many women add geek or nerd to their profiles there too. If I find one that likes action figures, I'll be a pig in sh@t. lol

[Adam West]

I have been married for almost 20 years so not at all familiar with online dating. I guess if it were just me; I'd list the basics....a picture, maybe a thing or two about what I'm looking for in a relationship and leave it at that. I have a lot of other interests besides collecting Megos and would just rather bring it up at the right time rather than stating it on a profile. My wife likes purses...she has way more than anyone could use in a lifetime. I probably would be turned off if it was mentioned in a profile. It is the one thing that she treats herself to everyone once in a while, doesn't spend a fortune on it and really doesn't define her in any way. I think it's worth bringing up but maybe not on a profile.

[Brad]

I met my wife the old fashioned way...



...on eBay!

[samurainoir]

I can understand how a person might not necessarily want just one aspect of their lives to define who they are overall.

But how many guys out there who are into Magic have a card created in their honour?

[babycyclops]

That guy should dress the way he's portrayed on that card... I'm sure the ladies would love it

Aren't there nerd-friendly dating sites out there these days?

[Mego Magyar]

I couldnt get a date to save my life geek or no geek!

You too
Married and jailbait are all that seem to be around.

[torgospizza]

http://fastcache.gawkerassets.com/as...wmage-card.jpg

I just noticed the name at the bottom of the "Summon Burger" card, and looked into it--I used to work with the guy that made it, surprisingly. Sometimes the internet's a smaller place than we think it is. I'd be willing to bet he doesn't even realize anyone else knows about that card, really, much less popping up here.

About the dating thing, I'd let it come up naturally, like anything else. There's a lot of ground to cover before something like that comes up, I'd think. Like my sister-in-law collects Campbell's Soup and Coca-Cola stuff, but I really don't even think about it when I'm around or when someone mentions her...it doesn't define her, and I think with most of us, action figures (f.ex.) are like one small mirror on a disco ball.

[jwyblejr]

That guy should dress the way he's portrayed on that card... I'm sure the ladies would love it

Aren't there nerd-friendly dating sites out there these days?

Sure is. I don't know the name of it but I saw the link to one over at TNI.

[biotrontim]

I was Married to a woman for 11 years. She hated my interest in Toys "Dolls in here words". I never had much of a collection, just bought toys to re-sell them for a nice profit (she never complained about that part). I am now separated and in the divorce process. I have since met an incredible woman who shares all my interests in Toys, movies and video games. She used to call her self the Geek Princess. I can see her becoming a Geek Queen in a few years! My Toy collection is also beginning to rival the Jedi Archives! What I am trying to get at is there are female "GEEKS" out there... there are some even on this site...
Though we did meet the old fashioned way.

[MicromanZone]

The more you hide what you are into, the less respect you’ll get for it when you have to finally reveal it to others. And there are definitely female “geeks” out there.

[Brazoo]

I love that there's less hang ups about women being into so-called "geek" culture now.

I don't think it's the specifics of what they're into that's significant - but I do think that to some degree women can be unfairly forced to judge their maturity a lot more than men, so it's nice to see things loosening up. Not to say that woman or men should be immature, but it's the difference between being childish and child-like.

To me - true happiness and maturity is about embracing and hanging onto our inner child to some degree. Appreciating things that are fun just for fun's sake shouldn't ever be a bad thing in my opinion, and I don't get people who think otherwise.

On the other side - I always thought that I'd have to find someone who was into all the same pop culture things I was into to get along with me - but I'm happily 6 months married now to a woman who practically grew up in another universe to me pop-culture-wise. We have some similar tastes in some things, and we obviously shared things with each other that we both enjoy now, but we come from totally different backgrounds in terms of pop-culture. She made me realize that pop-culture interests are a lot less important than being open to sharing things that make us both happy. It's made me redefine what "having things in common" means and I'm much happier because of it.