Woman sends adopted son back to Russia

[bobbait]

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this POS adopts a kid from Russia and 6 months later puts him on a plane by hisself to Russia with a note " sorry, I dont want him"

unbelivable!!

[toys2cool]

what a ***** , you know how many good people out there would give anything to have a kid

[Nostalgiabuff]

she claims that he was mentally disturbed and she was afraid of him. he's 7 for gods sake. ge the kid in some counseling and help him

[saildog]

Unfortunately, the problems with adoptions of older children from that region since the fall of the former Soviet Union are documented in great detail and though this story seems like it is the first time you have heard it, similar stories have been in the media for a long time. There was enough evidence there that someone in her situation probably would have read the reams of documentation about the problems....and the behavior this child displayed is a textbook example of the problems (when they exist....let me be clear that not all children display these problems) with these adoptions that date back well into the 1990's.

I'm not defending these people, at all. Any adoption, I imagine, would require a lot of soul-searching about the "what ifs", but lest you think any child can be "brought around" and that is what you base your judgment of these folks on...well, just do a little research and you will see that some of these children, especially the older ones, come with some serious issues that they will probably never be able to overcome.

Again, I am not defending these people. For it to have come to this, when the evidence of these problems has been documented and reported in the media for a long time, tells me that they didn't give due diligence to their considerations about just how difficult this can be and what all it was going to entail. There is a long and well-documented history in these cases of Russian Authorities obscuring the facts about the backgrounds and unless you know beyond any doubt the exact history of child's case, it is probably best to assume that there will be many developmental difficulties that will have to be worked through.

Do a Google search. Russian adoptions are well-documented as being difficult beyond what you can imagine and the cases go waaaay back.
http://www.ninapierpont.com/pdf/Russian_adoptions.pdf

[jp1969]

I heard she was a single lady.
I thought you had to be at least a married couple to adopt..........
Geuss the times are a changin.
If they just allow anybody to adopt children,can we really be surprised that they are treated like easter rabbit gifts?

[saildog]

If they just allow anybody to adopt children,can we really be surprised that they are treated like easter rabbit gifts?

That is the other side of some of these Russian adoptions. They don't screen well on their end, either. If someone has the cash for "said price", well that is good enough for them.

[starsky]

unfortunately, it's a business as well.

[Nostalgiabuff]

yeah she was a single mother and they allegedly told her the child had no health issues or concerns. even so, she adopted this child, he is leagaly her responsiblity. even with the problems how can you just turn a child out like that? i am not saying it is easy but she must have been given all sort of info about this and should have done her research before taking on such a responsibility. no agency will ever give her a chance to adopt another kid

[saildog]

unfortunately, it's a business as well.

You bet it is, and that is why I marvel at Russian Authorities feigning indignation. Everyone involved in this played their part, but the kid is who lost out. Not one person along the way was looking out for that kid.

He might as well have been a DVD player returned to a major mass market retailer for not making coffee the way the salesman said it would.

[jp1969]

From what I gather here and there,the former Soviet Union is in so much financial turmoil,that anyone with cash gets what they want.
I heard that in the ninties,a canadian news crew went over there and after asking around a little,were offered a nuclear warhead by a taxi-driver.
They are facing some serious problems over there.
May ultimately affect us all.
So this type of incident(giving the kid up to just anybody) does not surprise me at all.
And then,given the fact that she was able to adopt this child as easily as adopting a cat from the SPCA..............Well,you know..............
Some scary stuff,when you stop to think about it.

[Werewolf]

what a ***** ,

That was uncalled for.

As saildog said the Soviet Union has a very bad reputation for the hellish conditions of their orphanages and unscrupulous adoption agencies. I don't think people understand that these children are deeply emotionally disturbed are often very violent and psychotic.

It's a terrible situation but I can understand how someone could be totally unprepared to deal with such a child. Especially if you felt the child was a danger to your other children. The victims here are the woman that was misled on the psychological condition of the child and the child for being abused in the Russian child welfare system.

The badguys in this are child welfare system for getting him in that condition in the first place and the adoption agency which misrepresented the child's condition.

[SlipperyLilSuckers]

I was disgusted when I read about this, whatever the situation, she still handled the process, dumping him at the airport, very badly imo. According to the report I saw, the orphanage staff were not aware that he had massive problems. I guess we can't know the whole story from the media.

[Mikey]

She should have asked Madonna if she wants him

[jp1969]

Evil maybe?

I was disgusted when I read about this, whatever the situation, she still handled the process, dumping him at the airport, very badly imo. According to the report I saw, the orphanage staff were not aware that he had massive problems. I guess we can't know the whole story from the media.

Maybe he truly was evil?
Damian(The omen) was adopted also you know.?!!!?

[Merlyn1976]

what a *****

That was uncalled for.

IMO...not uncalled for in the least...

My 12yr old son has violence issues...he is ADHD, Oppositional defiant disorder, Pediatric Bipolar Disorder, with some OCD thrown in for good measure...At the age of 6 he tried to hit my wife (his step mom) in the stomach because she was pregnant...not to mention knocking out some of my teeth...or to mention all the fights he gets in on a regular basis...

Then there is my 7yr old autistic son...he has a hard time communicating what he needs/wants...he almost completely conveys what he wants in movie lines he's watched...but he's on the other side of the spectrum...he's more sad then violent...

There is no way to prepare for these kind of kids...but never once have I even THOUGHT about abandoning them to their fate on some aircraft or anything even similar...I wouldn't trade them for the world...

So yea...that lady is a real *****!!!