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  • Gorn Captain
    Invincible Ironing Man
    • Feb 28, 2008
    • 10549

    A story about my Dad...

    My Dad died three years ago, and I was going through some of his stuff recently.

    My Dad got me "into" movies, SF, horror, etc.
    He was a fan before me, and he took me to see Dracula and other classics.
    So I've always been indebted for him pointing the way to "a great thing".

    But he was a dreamer, and later in life a rather "bitter" dreamer.
    I know why.
    My Dad was very intelligent, even as a kid.
    He always had great grades, even though my grandparents weren't educated people. When he turned 18, he took a provincial exam where almost a million kids were tested to see what their abilities were.
    He came...first. He aced that test to perfection.
    University seemed to be the only and logical choice.
    But my grandparents said no.
    He had to get a "real" job, electrician.

    It was the very same thing that had happened to my uncle, who had taken the test before and had come in....first place.

    Isn't it terrible?
    I know, nothing wrong with learning a trade, but all that potential?
    He had to go to the army first (still mandatory then), and when he came back, my grandfather had burned all my Dad's books. All his comics and SF books.

    From then on, my Dad slowly "lost" his dreams. He never took a change anymore. He played it safe. Stopped going to movies. And he stopped encouraging his family to "progress". He never bought a house. He never taught us how to swim.
    He never became an electrician. How's that for irony?
    He was even afraid of handling appliances. Later in life, he unplugged every appliance before going to bed, the fridge being the only exception. No joke.
    He loved us, no mistake about that, but all that fear. Perhaps the fear of losing his hopes again?

    I wish my Dad had been able to keep on dreaming. Why couldn't his parents have supported him? Or his brother?
    It's a terrible thing, to crush someone's dreams.
    Of his three kids, I am the only one who keeps trying to "push the outside of the envelope" and "take a chance".
    In a way, I consider it my duty to the dreamer in my Dad, to go for it and take a leap.
    Never say die!
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    "When things are at their darkest, it's a brave man that can kick back and party."
  • fallensaviour
    Talkative Member
    • Aug 28, 2006
    • 5620

    #2
    Originally posted by Gorn Captain
    Later in life, he unplugged every appliance before going to bed, the fridge being the only exception. No joke.
    He may even be smarter than you think.It is a little known fact that appliances and electronic equipment still draw power even when not in use.It is known as phantom power and the electric company does not want you to know!!!

    They make money while you sleep or away from home.
    Unplug when you are done with stuff don't just shut it off...You would be surprised at your savings.

    There is no possibility to achieve without risk.
    Very touching story.
    “When you say “It’s hard”, it actually means “I’m not strong enough to fight for it”. Stop saying its hard. Think positive!”

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    • toys2cool
      Ultimate Mego Warrior
      • Nov 27, 2006
      • 28605

      #3
      Great story bro, That sucks, who knows what he could've been given the chance
      "Time to nut up or shut up" -Tallahassee

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      • HardyGirl
        Mego Museum's Poster Girl
        • Apr 3, 2007
        • 13950

        #4
        Wow, that's so sad.

        I'm the dreamer in my family too. And I'll never let someone tell me I can't do something. I'm glad you're still a dreamer. Do it for your dad. Dream big!
        "Do you believe, you believe in magic?
        'Cos I believe, I believe that I do,
        Yes, I can see I believe that it's magic
        If your mission is magic your love will shine true."

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        • vulcan2074
          Live Long and Prosper
          • Mar 23, 2008
          • 7817

          #5
          Thats a deep story. Thanks for sharing.
          Sammy

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          • AUSSIE-Rebooted-AMM
            I was NEVER here!
            • Jun 22, 2008
            • 1188

            #6
            Cool. . . . wow. . . . shame to see the intelligence gene skips a generation, but other than that. . . . .WOW. Go for it Rik!!!!!

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            • Bill
              Parminant Memble
              • Oct 20, 2002
              • 4139

              #7
              Mediocrity is severely under-rated. My mantra

              Depression and intelligence go hand in hand.

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              • Spawn67
                Career Member
                • Aug 14, 2009
                • 816

                #8
                Thats a sad story indeed.

                Speaking for myself here in my life Ive seen so many people with potential diminish into nothing due to fear. In our society theres a stigmata that you "have to grow up". I get it all the time people telling me "Im to old to lisen to the music I like, Like sci fi and horror films, collect vintage toys" etc etc. im sure many people on this forum here that all the time as well.
                Ive seen the best muscians i grew up with as well as lifelong friends(at least I thought they were) fall into the female trap where there controlled by someone else diminishing any potential that they once had. When I see them now which is rare I see someone completley diffrent in there persona I like to call "the darth vader syndrome". I can tell that they aren't happy inside. and know deep down inside that they wasted their potential.
                As much as I hate to say it "escapism" or any form of art that doesn't go with what society says whats right or wrong is not deemed appropriate by our society.
                Im the only dreamer in my family as well.

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                • Marvelmania
                  A Ray of Sunshine
                  • Jun 17, 2001
                  • 10392

                  #9
                  Sad and interesting read. Thank you for sharing that with us.

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                  • DocDrako
                    Formerly Doc Drako
                    • Nov 11, 2004
                    • 2813

                    #10
                    Wow that's sad. So much potential wasted. I hope you excel beyond what even your father might have dreamed of.

                    "I prefer to remain an enigma."

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                    • Meule
                      Verbose Member
                      • Nov 14, 2004
                      • 28720

                      #11
                      Sad story Rik. I think your father would be proud of you (maybe even a little envious) that you still take chances and keep dreaming. You honor your dad by doing so
                      "...The agony of my soul found vent in one loud, long and final scream of despair..." - Edgar Allan Poe

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                      • Gorn Captain
                        Invincible Ironing Man
                        • Feb 28, 2008
                        • 10549

                        #12
                        My Dad once wrote an SF novel called "It's a mad world."
                        Kind of says it all, right?
                        He never tried to get it published. Big surprise.

                        I've just finished my own book, after doing a big rewrite on the ending.
                        As a matter of fact, some of you asked for a copy and should be getting one before the end of the year.
                        The day I stop dreaming and trying to make something of my life, you can bury me....
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                        "When things are at their darkest, it's a brave man that can kick back and party."

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                        • Gorn Captain
                          Invincible Ironing Man
                          • Feb 28, 2008
                          • 10549

                          #13
                          Originally posted by Meule
                          Sad story Rik. I think your father would be proud of you (maybe even a little envious) that you still take chances and keep dreaming. You honor your dad by doing so

                          Thanks, Thomas.
                          It means a lot to me to hear that...
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                          "When things are at their darkest, it's a brave man that can kick back and party."

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                          • jessica
                            fortune favors the bold
                            • Nov 5, 2007
                            • 4590

                            #14
                            Rik, that is so sad!

                            sniffle.

                            Keep aiming for the stars because one day you'll land on the moon. And I'll be so darn proud of you.
                            Those who look outside dream. Those who look within awake.
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