Longing to be happy...

[Hector]

Hardy Girl....or can I call you Sharry?

I went through the same thing with my dad...and all this happened when I myself was hospitalized (over a year)...I felt so useless, frustrated, and angry.

The worst thing is that when he passed on...I was still so sick myself...I missed everything...we couldn't hang out together during his last year of his life (although he managed to visit me at the hospital and nursing facility a few times), the night vigil, seeing him for one last time...and his memorial (he was cremated).

I hope your mom somehow comes through...but be prepared in case she does not...and if, and when, that times comes...it's gonna hurt like heck.

It will be very sad...but the most peculiar thing about it...is that in a strange way...you feel feel relieved...no more suffering for your mom...just be content that you did your best...that you were a loving daughter.

I know you are a person of faith (I'm not...so in that respect...I envy you)...so that belief will help you tremendously...knowing that someday...you and your mom will be once again reunited in a far better place than this world.

The pain will always be there...but it will certainly diminish over time.

Hang in there...and I wish you the very best.

[AUSSIE-Rebooted-AMM]

Hang in there HardyGirl. . . . .there will be joy in your life again. Life is full of light and shade. . . . and you and your mum are just passing through one of lifes tunnels.

[MIB41]

I wish you nothing but the best. I don't know if this will help, but a couple of years back I lost my dad suddenly. No warning, no signs that anything was coming, he just dropped of a massive heart attack one night and EMS never got him back, not even once. I never got to say goodbye or to say some things I would have liked to have said. You can do these things. I know your mom is sick, but cherish her good moments when she has them and make sure to share everything you can. You all can talk about everything you've been through together and have some very special moments. Make those moments count because they'll become memories that will give you strength later. I wish nothing but peace for you and your mom.

[Gorn Captain]

My thoughts are with you.
I went through it when my Dad had stomach cancer (and made it), and years later the same thing, and we lost him.
It's been three years now.

I can find no reason for suffering in this world, both by the person undergoing it, and family and friends that suffer alongside.

I hope that she pulls through, but most of all I hope that the pain will stop.
May whatever that makes this universe tick give the both of you strength.

[johnnystorm]

Sharry, hang in there, take some time for yourself- I know that's hard to justify. You want to spend every moment you can with your mom. I went through it with my dad a few years back. I even closed my business to be there with him, and the financial problems that caused have haunted me for years. I can't change some of the decisions I made then, but hindsight is 20/20 and there are things that could have been done differently. I wouldn't give up the time with dad, but I might have made things easier on myself by planning better or just asking for help. I went it alone (well, me & my wife) and didn't ask my friends to help me. Don't be a martyr- people are out there for you, you just need to ask.

Grab a few moments for yourself and think things through, spend a few minutes cherishing the things you like, post & complain here in the forums & let off some steam. Those things that bring you joy are still there and can help make your days a little easier to handle.

God bless you & your family and best wishes.

[jasonmego1277]

Oh.... I hope things get better. Like Joe said we all seem to have family member swho are getting sick or even ourselves. The best thing to do is always remember to enjoy your life and your family and friends. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

[mitchedwards]

Your family are in my prayers.

[david_b]

Thanks for sharing with us, HardyGirl. This is why this Forum rocks..!

I'm not too close to a lot of my family ('cept my Mom, my Dad passed away a few years back..), but I just strive to reach out to everyone else when they're in distress, because they NEED to know we care..

david_b

[Riffster]

I'm sorry, I hope you can cherish the good times