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TrueDave
Jul 4, '11, 9:26 AM
I'm Autistic. I'm trying my best , everyday.
This Public announcement is in response to a private message.


True Story,
True Dave.

UPdate: Feb 2012

I wanted to post that because of the critcism I recieved I saw a therapist and was told I'm NOT autistic. I was misdiagnosed.
I'm very greatful for the well intentioned friendly criticism because I have lived as an Autistic for almost 10 years.
Thank You for the critcism it helped me :-)

boss
Jul 4, '11, 10:09 AM
I think your forum behavior has always been fine. Don't let a PM bum you out.

Duncan
Jul 4, '11, 10:16 AM
It was a pleasure to meet you and the wife at the Meet.

D

ScottA
Jul 4, '11, 10:24 AM
It was a pleasure for me too Dave. I loved seeing your stuff and hope to see you again next year.

Random Axe
Jul 4, '11, 11:11 AM
Dave,

It sucks that someone made you feel you had to make a very personal statement. And its nothing to feel embarrassed about, but you already know that. It was very cool to meet you, and you know where I work so you have an. open invitation to pop in.

Scott

Bizarro Amy
Jul 4, '11, 12:27 PM
I didn't get to see you at the Meet, but I enjoy your posts and the messages we've exchanged. I'm sorry to hear that someone is making you feel uncomfortable.

megoscott
Jul 4, '11, 12:39 PM
You're a cool dude in my book, Dave.

Brown Bear
Jul 4, '11, 1:05 PM
I like Dave too. He's nifty.

jwyblejr
Jul 4, '11, 1:16 PM
I never understood why people have to do this.

hedrap
Jul 4, '11, 1:36 PM
TD, I talked to you for a few minutes at the Meet. My nephew has a form of autism. I know the tell signs, but you were fine. Nothing you did seemed out of the ordinary, especially for a first timer.

toys2cool
Jul 4, '11, 1:43 PM
life's to short to take things so seriously bro, not everyone's going to like you or understand you...if they don't like your threads or your posts... it's simple, they can choose not to read them ;)

pmwasson
Jul 4, '11, 2:02 PM
Dave, you're a great guy! I enjoyed talking with you through the forum and meeting you at Mego Meet. Don't let some message bring you down. Can't wait to see what you come up with next as you are creative and talented.

VintageMike
Jul 4, '11, 2:06 PM
I haven't seen anything that from you that seemed odd. Sorry someone made you feel you had to reveal this.

torgospizza
Jul 4, '11, 4:06 PM
I think your forum behavior has always been fine. Don't let a PM bum you out.

I agree w/ Boss here, Dave. I've never met you, but I like your posts and you seem like a good guy to me.

thunderbolt
Jul 4, '11, 4:44 PM
well, that's pretty lame that someone would pm you like that. Don't let it bug you Dave.

Brazoo
Jul 4, '11, 4:48 PM
Stay True - True Dave, you're one of the good guys! :yes:

Random Axe
Jul 4, '11, 4:52 PM
I know you'd probably like to keep this mostly under wraps, but a PM like that should be brought to the attention of our mods. Harrassment always starts small and should not be tolerated.

The Toyroom
Jul 4, '11, 5:01 PM
Dave's a cool dude :wink:

SeattleEd
Jul 4, '11, 5:05 PM
Dave,
You do bring a lot to the table and create very interesting posts. Don't let it get to you.
From what I've experienced being on here, there those that will always have issues with other members.
You are the better person by rising above those that attack you because of your personality or idiosyncrasies. Usually attributed to envy. Just remain steadfast to the True Dave :)

piecemaker
Jul 4, '11, 5:08 PM
Dont let it get you down Dave,your Cool in my book too. :yeah:

MicromanZone
Jul 4, '11, 5:20 PM
Usually attributed to envy.
It’s taken me a long time to fully understand this, but in my mind, bullies aren’t envious. They are threatened. And 99 times out of 100 that threat is based on their own insecurities. Rising above is the best way to handle but it is so, so, so hard to learn, grasp or understand. Especially when you want to at least treat a bully as a human. In my experience I’ve learned that jerks, are simply jerks. Better face them cleanly, deal with them cleanly and move on.

Also I am relatively new to this specific collectors community and mainly into Micronaut and some pop culture stuff here, but I would like to think if there is one place bullying should not be tolerated it’s a toy collectors board. We all already get enough grief for our hobby; no need to get that in the world from another supposed fan.

CrimsonGhost
Jul 4, '11, 5:58 PM
Hey Dave,

I respect your honesty. I had a nice time talking to you and your wife at Mego Meet and I hope you enjoyed yourself at the show. I like the work you are doing and hope you continue with it.

johnmiic
Jul 4, '11, 6:40 PM
Hey Dave, I met you at the meet, You and your wife are nice people. You're cool. Don't worry about anything man.

toys2cool
Jul 4, '11, 6:57 PM
Itís taken me a long time to fully understand this, but in my mind, bullies arenít envious. They are threatened. And 99 times out of 100 that threat is based on their own insecurities. Rising above is the best way to handle but it is so, so, so hard to learn, grasp or understand. Especially when you want to at least treat a bully as a human. In my experience Iíve learned that jerks, are simply jerks. Better face them cleanly, deal with them cleanly and move on.

Also I am relatively new to this specific collectors community and mainly into Micronaut and some pop culture stuff here, but I would like to think if there is one place bullying should not be tolerated itís a toy collectors board. We all already get enough grief for our hobby; no need to get that in the world from another supposed fan.

well let's not get carried away here either guys, I highly doubt he's getting bullied....
I'm sure he posted something that someone didn't like and they said something, I know I've gotten those pm's before...Now if they insulted you or you feel like what they told you wasn't appropriate..then just let one of the mods know and they should take care of it..

MLoudin
Jul 4, '11, 7:50 PM
Really enjoyed meeting you and your wife... The Star Trek Mego magnet you made is WAY cool!!

megocrazy
Jul 4, '11, 9:46 PM
I not sure of the details but I wouldn't let it bother you Dave. I deal with autism on a regular basis and I would never have known your situation. Not that it matters. My wife cares for a small child with autism. BTW, I also enjoyed meeting you both at the Meet.

trekman101
Jul 4, '11, 10:26 PM
Dave...I have always found your interaction on this forum to be perfectly fine.....don't let anyone bother you with comments.....and never feel like you have done anything wrong :wink_y:

boston
Jul 4, '11, 10:50 PM
I have no idea what this guy said to you but for you to make this post it must of been something completely wrong. the only thing that comes to my mind is violence and being a all ages site I will restrain myself with what should be done to this guy who left you feeling the need to post this. one day this guy might say something to the wrong person and he'll be spending their next 365 days drinking food from a straw with a pencil taped to his head so he can make notes on how to treat a person while in recovery.


I'm Autistic. I'm trying my best , everyday.
This Public announcement is in response to a private message.


True Story,
True Dave.

palitoy
Jul 5, '11, 7:50 AM
While we weren't introduced, more than one person made it a point to mention to me afterwards about meeting you and how much they enjoyed it. I don't know why you'd have to justify that to anyone.

TrueDave
Jul 5, '11, 9:08 AM
The member was being thoughtful and helpful :smile:and spoke for several members. I respect the person and can guess who they were mentioning. I like them too.
I thank You and I thank them.
They were right. I get this a lot, for decades.

( but I am VERY sorry for the drama. )

boss
Jul 5, '11, 10:18 AM
It's all good. This is a pretty cool group of toy collectors who stick together for the most part.

One other thing, nobody hear speaks FOR anyone else. Don't let someone make you believe otherwise.

Godzilla
Jul 5, '11, 10:43 AM
My kids are still talkign about the magnet we bought. Great stuff!

Mikey
Jul 5, '11, 11:26 AM
I missed the whole thing and have no idea what this is about.

Regardless, you're a cool guy Dave and keep on truck'in :2thumbsup:

Jerry68
Jul 5, '11, 12:51 PM
Do not let people make you feel that you have to explain yourself. I have not seen anything from you that is in question. Keep your head up and move forward, don't let that pm bother you. Iwas at the meet and we were both in Austin's seminar. I did not notice anything out of the ordinary. We are all a bunch of people that share a common interest and sometimes we are not all going to get along.

Hulk
Jul 7, '11, 3:01 AM
Never would have guessed it if you hadn't mentioned it, but I applaud you for being brave enough to do so. By no means should you feel like explaining it, but I hope it gives you some measure of comfort to know that your autism doesn't affect how we accept you, beyond the new found respect I and others have for sharing something so personal. Keep on posting, and looking forward to seeing you again next year.

Cmonster
Jul 7, '11, 9:12 AM
I wasn't at MM and haven't met you in person, but have enjoyed our PM's back and forth about all things customizing... If you felt that your autism was something you were comfortable sharing with us, I think that's pretty cool. So are you. :cool_y: Don't let the peanut gallery get to you. LOL

SC

Brue
Jul 7, '11, 11:24 AM
really? your behavior? you met me, right?
i don't remember anything wrong at the meet or on the forums.

probably best you apologies to me though -I can pretend you were that guy who sucker punched me in the eighth grade. thanks for the apology. now i can offer forgiveness and move on with life.

TrueDave
Jul 9, '11, 9:03 AM
"If you felt that your autism was something you were comfortable sharing with us, I think that's pretty cool. "
No I dont feel comfortable sharing it. Not in the most remote stretch.
I hate this. A lot.

batmanmc
Jul 9, '11, 9:59 AM
dave yu are a cool guy. i enjoyed meeting you at the meet.