What should I do?

[Mr.Marion]

The other day I was at an Travern. I saw someone who looked a lot like my cousin's husband having drinks with a younger lady and they seemed quite intimate. Now, to be clear, I don't know the relationship between them, or even if it really was my cousin's husband but he really looked like him.

He didn't notice me and I snapped a few pics. I was tempted to send it to my cousin just to confirm that her husband is not cheating on her but I decided not to send it just then because....what if I sent it and ruin their family.


Now, what do you think is the right thing to do here? Should I just adopt the 'not my business' attitude?

[Mikey]

Follow Sgt Schultz's advice

[Earth 2 Chris]

If you can't verify it was him, I'd let it go. Doesn't sound like you're close enough to them to intrude one way or another.

Chris

[Makernaut]

If you can't verify it was him, I'd let it go. Doesn't sound like you're close enough to them to intrude one way or another.

Chris

My exact thoughts, as well.

[Brown Bear]

My advice is stay outta of it as u may earn yerself a pop in the kisser for your trouble.

I have lunch with ladies from work occasionally and my wife is well aware, so if someone snapped pics of us and shared them there’s a good chance I’d drop the dude.

[Earth 2 Chris]

I have lunch with ladies from work occasionally and my wife is well aware, so if someone snapped pics of us and shared them there’s a good chance I’d drop the dude.

Same. I was once the subject of rumors at work because a coworker and I got separated from a huge lunch group and sat at a patio table alone. The next thing I know, we're supposedly having an affair! Luckily my wife knew better, but it still honked me off.

Chris

[hedrap]

Yeah. Don't get involved.

Once the gossip train leaves the station, there's no stopping it.

[libby 1957dog]

gossip is the devils telephone , hang up

just heard that on ****ts creek last night and it struck me funny ,didnt think id get the chance to use it so quickly ,
thanks to all who made that possible

[cjefferys]

What should I do?

In this situation my answer would be: "Not a damn thing." You're not even sure if he actually was your cousin, and you want to start messing with other peoples' lives and relationships, holy crap.

[Nostalgiabuff]

i agree with everything said. stay out of it. nothing good will come of it

[Mr.Marion]

My first instinct was to tell my cousin about it, but after reading these comments it seems I should let cooler heads prevail and think about it.

Maybe I can give her a friendly call and see what she says about her hubby, without bringing that up.

[thunderbolt]

You seem determined to poke the bear. Enjoy the consequences.

[enyawd72]

You need to think about it? Man, there's NOTHING to think about.
Just let it go. Forget you ever saw anything, because first, you're not sure WHAT you saw, or even WHO you saw. Second, it's none of your business.

If somebody tried to start crap between me and my wife without any facts...well, I wouldn't want to be that person.

[Mikey]

Let's say it really was him …

Do you really want to be responsible for the schitstorm that will inevitably happen ?

[Mr.Marion]

You need to think about it? Man, there's NOTHING to think about.
Just let it go. Forget you ever saw anything, because first, you're not sure WHAT you saw, or even WHO you saw. Second, it's none of your business.

If somebody tried to start crap between me and my wife without any facts...well, I wouldn't want to be that person.

I generally am surprised by this sentiment. Handholding and flirty behavior to me means something and I snapped a pic. I gave the guy the benefit of the doubt maybe it was his doppelganger. There was a guy who used to live 15 miles away who I heard looked exactly like me, that's rare but possible.

My close friend's sister had an abusive live-in boyfriend and my friend would always say it's none of my business. I thought he was such a wimp for having that attitude.

I'd love to think water evens out and I don't need to get involved. But it certainly deserved some thought in my eyes. Either way I'm not offended.